All things come out of and go back to love
True intimacy is one sided and nonjudgmental. It starts from inside.
The test for truth is to kick it. What is true will come back to you. If it comes back to you, it is yours. What goes away with a kick was never yours.
The true nature of everything in creation is to come back to it’s origin. A plant comes from the soil and it goes back to the soil. Water comes up from the ocean and it goes back to the source, is the nature of everything in creation.
We are innocent when we are born. When we become very old, we become like that again, innocent.
A child has little capacity to comprehend and communicate. When it goes through life and becomes old, it completes the circle, whether wantingly or not wantingly. Those who live long enough become like a child again. If you have ever spoken to people who are ninety-five or one hundred years old, you will feel that they are like children now. They can’t understand or communicate. Like children they get stuck on one thing. They say something and they stick to it. Children say, “Pa, pa, pa, pa.” in the same way old people also repeat.
When children do it, it is more joyful, although sometimes the mother gets angry at the child. But when old people do it, you feel frustrated because your way of looking at a child and an old man is totally different. Your expectation from both of them is totally different. So your own expectations cause irritations in you. Your own judgments cause irritations in you.
It is not looking at whether the other person loves you or not, whether the other person treats you well or not. That is none of your business. If I want to be intimate with somebody, I take it for granted that they feel they love me. When you doubt whether the other person loves you or not, then your love for the other person goes down.
There is no way you can know the love of another person. If you base your perception only on the expression of love, you are misled. Someone may say, “Oh, you are so wonderful, I love you so much.” And if you think they mean that, or if you think someone who doesn’t say, “Oh, I love you so much,” doesn’t love you, then you are mistaken. Action does not always represent the truth of the state of being.
In true intimacy you stop looking at the act and you start being in love. So if you have determined to love somebody, do not even think whether they love you or not. You love them. That is enough. If they kick you to see whether the love in you is true of not, then you should have more happiness. Then, also, you give love back. True love is coming back to the self. That is true intimacy.
Take it for granted that everybody and everything in this entire creation, loves you, because everything has come out of love and goes back to love and remains in love. Then you are with the flow of the current. You are with the flow of the river. If you don’t see that, then you are against the current. Then you will not be loving.
In looking out there for intimacy, you are swimming against the current. That brings you strain, frustration, anger.
In creation everything is intimate; everything feels, experiences intimacy. When somebody is swimming against the current, what does it mean?
The whole creation is moving towards love. It is in love. But the one who is swimming against the current is not in love.
You are already intimate. How intimate can you be? You cannot be any more intimate. Your wanting to be intimate, wanting to have more intimacy, is the block. In looking out there for intimacy, you are swimming against the current. That brings you strain, frustration, anger.
Everything other than human beings, that is, the human mind which is stressed and tense only judges, discriminates, loves this, doesn’t love that, makes on hundred boundaries, ifs and buts, doubts, and then removes itself from existence.
This removal of existence from the flow of existence is called separation.